Brian D. Perskin & Associates

Divorce Can Be a Good Thing!

Divorce is tough. It can be an emotionally trying time, full of sadness, anger, or resentment. Many people going through a contested divorce may feel hopeless and have a hard time focusing on the positive aspects of their life. It can be hard to see a light at the end of the tunnel, but it is possible to emerge from divorce happy, healthy, and with a better outlook on life.

The benefits of divorce can be limitless, especially if a person was involved in an abusive or threatening marriage. Some of the most important life lessons that are a result of divorce include:

Becoming a better parent

A lot of couples remain in an unhealthy marriage because they think staying married is in their child’s best interest. This notion couldn’t be further from the truth. Children who experience their parent’s unhealthy marriage will develop a warped sense of what a healthy and beneficial relationship really is. It can be incredibly dangerous to remain married for a child’s benefit.

By proceeding with divorce, parents can focus their energy on raising their children instead of trying to fix a marriage that isn’t working. The energy of a household changes once negativity or tension is removed from the equation. Kids are intuitive and will often pick up on these small changes, and will begin to feel happier. Divorce may be devastating, but sometimes, it is the best decision for a family.

Getting in touch with positive emotions

Times of hardship can actually be very beneficial to your emotional and mental well-being. Important lessons in humility, empathy, and maturity are learned as a direct result of a tough situation. The struggles faced during divorce can give you a new perspective on life, allowing you to better relate to others around you, make you more aware of your needs in relationships, and more grateful for the good in your life.

Divorce may be grueling, but you will emerge with a new sense of fortitude that will transfer into other areas of your life. You may not realize it now, but a tough divorce can be a good thing!

A renewed sense of self-worth

Your self-confidence can take a real blow during the divorce or separation process. You may feel down because your marriage is ending, despite any efforts to keep it afloat. This is okay! It is perfectly normal, and healthy, to mourn the end of a relationship.

The first step to successfully coping with divorce is to recognize that your marriage has not “failed”. The relationship has changed, and has run its course. It is important to not dwell on the end of your marriage for too long, and to instead focus on you. Push the negative thoughts out of your head and focus on the road in front of you. It may be tough, but you can do this. By facing your fears and insecurities, you gain strength. This tenacity will allow you to come out from divorce a stronger and more confident person than you were previously. The renewed sense of confidence and self-worth acquired during divorce will have a positive impact for years to come.

Becoming a better partner

Opening yourself up to a new relationship after divorce is scary, but it is also exciting and new. You are now older, more mature, and you refuse to settle for the first person who piques your interest.

Drawing from the lessons learned from your marriage will help you determine whether or not you are ready to pursue a new relationship. Your past experiences have shaped you into a strong and confident person. These two attributes are imperative to thriving in a new romantic endeavor. Recognizing and acknowledging your needs and desires will help you develop a successful, healthy, and mutually beneficial partnership.

Let Us Help You

In order to focus on your well-being, or the well-being of your family, you need to make sure you have a competent divorce or family law attorney advocating on your behalf. The law firm of Brian D. Perskin & Associates P.C. specializes in divorce and child custody matters, working tirelessly for their client’s best interests. Doing so provides litigants with a sense of security, knowing that their lives rest in the hands of dedicated and experienced experts. For more information on divorce in New York City, contact Brian and his team to schedule a free and confidential consultation today!