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4 Tips for Dating After Divorce

There is life after divorce, and it often includes dating. If you feel you are ready to jump into the dating scene, you should keep a few pointers in mind. Doing so may improve your chance of finding a great relationship after divorce.

Increase Your Opportunities to Date

Keeping your routine the same and hanging out with the same friends is not the best way to meet new people. If you want a chance of finding someone new, you need to expand your group of friends. You can also check out events just for single people, or simply go to the gym for a chance to meet people who may catch your attention. Even online dating is a possibility that works out for many people these days.

Don't Assume Everyone Is Like Your Former Spouse

If you cannot keep your hang-ups about your ex off your mind as you date, you might not be ready to meet new people just yet. History is not always bound to repeat itself, especially if you are with a new person who is nothing like your ex. If you want a chance of success in the dating world after divorce, you need to try to forget about your former spouse as you get ready for your dates. Instead, look forward to the wonderful qualities the new people you meet will have.

Avoid Saying Mean Comments About Your Ex

If you are asked about the divorce, you should keep it short and as sweet as possible. You can mention you decided to part ways or something equally vague and not too complicated. You do not want to come off sounding bitter or insulting, since this is usually a turn-off. In fact, you may want to avoid talking about your ex at all, or at least limit the amount you say.

Don't Spend the Whole Date Talking About Your Kids

People you are just getting to know likely do not want to hear all about your children before they even know much about you. Instead of regaling new dates with stories about your kids, let them know some limited details, including how many children you have and how old they are. If the relationship works out, you will have plenty of time to tell your new partner about the children and even introduce them. This does not need to happen all within the first few dates.

If you do not feel ready to date merely because your ex continually gives you trouble, it may be something a lawyer can fix. For example, if your former spouse frequently calls and threatens you, or refuses to pay alimony, it's time to talk to an attorney. At Brian D. Perskin & Associates P.C., we have handled many cases in which the ex was not cooperating with court orders. If you are ready to move on, but your ex is making it difficult, call our firm for the legal help you need.

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